You're Not Going to Discover the Perfect Spot to Find Your Passion.

There is no place on earth that will provide the perfect circumstances for us to discover our passion and true sense of belonging. We’ve been indoctrinated with the idea that it will be revealed if we find that perfect job, that amazing cause, that welcoming group, that motivating book, or that enlightening quest. In our longing-filled search for our passion, we take assessments that put us in categories, we compare ourselves to others, and strive to become a person that the world tells us is “successful.”  We cross our fingers and wait in vain for the clouds to part and reward us with rainbows, happiness, and bliss.


But before you become discouraged, know this: that passion and sense of belonging exists within you. Right. Now.  It’s a bit like spending an hour looking for your eyeglasses and then finding them atop your head.  

How do you peel back the layers to your core and live it?  Here’s the funny thing, your passion is such a natural part of what you do it can be hard to name – unlike the things you “should” do or even hate to do – we can name and complain about those all day! When you are operating in your groove-flow-passion it's as intuitive as breathing; time flies and it's natural.

Over the next few blogs, we’ll work to reveal your passion.  For now, I’ll give you this homework: take some time to look back over your life – yes, all the way back to childhood (note: while undeveloped, this is where you might find some of the purest examples of your passion).  List four or more times when you did something 1) that you were proud of doing, 2) thought you did well, and 3) felt a sense of accomplishment.  This could be as simple as building a fort or as complex as writing a scientific textbook.  It doesn’t matter what anyone else thought – others may never have even realized you did something!  It may have been in good or tough circumstances – but when you were doing it, time flew by and you were in your groove.  Let’s put those lost glasses on and get some clarity. Enjoy!

I Gotta Get Outta Here!

Mundanity – Yes, its a word.  I looked to make sure that I could take mundane to a whole new level of meaning.  

the condition or quality of being mundane; mundaneness. an instance of being mundane : one of the mundanities of everyday life. (

How else might someone describe it?  Stuck. Bored. Waiting. Wanting. Frustrated.


It got me thinking, something only becomes mundane when I've had a taste of something that is exciting, passion-stirring, and hope-filled.  For example, my world was just fine when I used to enjoy a milk chocolate candy bar, until I dared eat a square of dark chocolate - from that moment forward, milk chocolate was not enough.   Ultimately, it's a judgment - you live with the mundane or you change.

Situations don't usually begin as mundane.  At one point, it may have been the greatest thing ever - but we're not static beings; we learn and grow out of our current situations all the time. It begins with allowing ourselves to ask, "What if..." and once that question goes out to the heavens you can start packing for an amazing journey. That daring thought about something new can unfold to the point where it would be absolutely ridiculous if you DON'T pursue it! 

I gotta get outta here!"

Readiness for stepping away from mundanity and actually stepping away are very different.  In readiness, we can continue to complain and blame others for how bored we are.  We might override some of our frustrations by "selling out" for a predictable routine.  To step away requires courage to explore something without really knowing if it will bring about what we've been yearning for.  If it doesn't, we have only ourselves to blame - but what if it does? 

This yearning is one of the reasons that people will come to me as a coach.  Their interest gets sparked in something new and they've gone round and round with the pros and cons, advice from friends and loved ones, and maybe even a Magic 8-ball.  "Should I start a business?" ... "Signs point to yes."

Are you there?  Have you thought about a coach to push you and open new doors in your old thinking?  Coaches are there to ask questions that no one else might be asking you, to hear patterns in your language and experiences and point them out as a place where you might want to be more curious.  They encourage you to set your sights on what you really want, and call bullshit on your pity party.  (I can say this because my coach has done that to me - numerous times).

You can invite a coach in at any point of your examination of (or escape from) mundanity.  The best next step is to initiate a conversation with a coach about their approach and philosophy on partnering with you.  Then get ready, cuz milk chocolate ain't gonna cut it for long.


Beware of monotony; it's the mother of all the deadly sins."   - Edith Wharton

Looking beyond your walls

Think of your personal problem solving and goal setting as a field – it might be green and lush or it might be full of weeds – and this field is lined with a stone wall.  In places it’s low and you can see over it to get an idea of what’s beyond; in some places its high and you’re unable to see the possibilities on the other side.  Now, don’t get me wrong, your field is a great place to be; it’s served you well, but that damn wall keeps getting in the way when you want a glimpse beyond it.

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Here’s the game changer.  What if someone were on the other side of that wall, and approached you as a friend and partner? Someone who initially can meet you at the lower heights of the wall, to work with you on gradually removing the wall – question by question, stone by stone until something new is revealed to you.

And maybe you become curious about breaking down some of the taller sections of the wall – it’s heavy lifting and challenging work, but another opening invites you to look into the distance to things that you never even dreamed of.

That person who meets you at the wall can be anyone, but a coach is specifically trained in removing the walls with people who are ready to have a whole different view.

Where have you been hitting your wall?  Balancing life, family, community, work? A habit or tendency that is preventing you from entertaining the possibilities? Maybe a fear about something that seems too risky but you know could make your life better?

A coach will meet you at your wall, shake hands over it, and have a conversation about whether or not you’d like help to remove some of those stones.  You'll wind up with a clearer view of YOU.